Dear Miss Behave,

I am blessed with a successful career, and I do enjoy pampering myself on and off with good food and other luxuries of life. Hence, among my friends, you could say I can afford most things others can’t. So whenever we go out for meals, I would always offer to pay. However, after some time, this became a habit, especially with a certain group of people. Even when the invitation came from another person, I would always end up footing the bill. This has become so much of an annoyance that I have stopped going out with some of them.

Dear Miss Behave,

I have a situation here. One of my exes (from 2 years ago) has requested to be added into my Facebook. We were staying together for a few years, but unfortunately things didn’t work out. We literally went through hell with our breakup! I am now with another girl and things have been great so far. So, do I add my ex (so as not to appear rude), or should I just ignore it (lest I incurred the wrath of my current love)?

Fr: Christian S.

Dear Miss Behave,

I bumped into an old friend recently, and she miraculously looked at least 5 years younger! It was plain obvious that she has had plastic surgery done on her face. Am I supposed to compliment her? Or pretend she hasn’t had any work done?

Fr:  Shelly Tan

Dear Miss Behave,

My girlfriends and I have this ritual biweekly hang-out thingy that we always do pre-pandemic, taking turns visiting one another at our homes. During RMCO, they still do as all of us stay not far from one another. However, as I have 2 elderly parents staying with me, I’m not comfortable having any visitors just yet; and neither do I want to do any house visiting. This has put a strain in our relationship, with them say I’m just over-reacting, fussing over nothing and insisting that they are all ‘clean and safe’. Is there any excuse that I can make to politely say NO to them? How do I tactfully tell them, ‘Visitors are not allowed”? This is getting into my skin, short of me saying, ‘Trespassers will be prosecuted!’

Sincerely, Kok Li Suen